Latinas as Yes Woman after the Wedding Day??
So I wonder if women function only for agreement after they get married? Does Latino culture enforce this machismo?
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not doing an Octavio Paz on Latinos and they’re so called “inherent machismo.” No! I love my origin. I love the mangos, plantains, smiling Caribbeans, and magical realism. I love the history and culture. Amo mi America, America Latina.
However, after seeing today’s episode on Oprah (the ex-wife of Lance Armstrong explained her loss of independence and her own identity after sporting the big rock) I wonder if Latino culture reinforces the traditional and unfeministic notions of the ideal wife and mother (barefoot and pregnant, in the kitchen).
Many minority cultures subjugate its females. They fill them with shame when their mind, body, or soul steps outside of the threshold. Fortunately, with the expansion of education, this traditional way of thinking has declined. But it hasn’t diminished. It was just recently that my aunt (who I love to death) told my cousin to serve dinner to her husband. Are we our husband’s mothers too?
Maybe we should step out from the norms a bit. Observe, and see what we want and need (besides food, water and shelter). Rather than fantasizing that el principe azul will climb up and save us from evil witches and dragons, we Latinas must cut off our long (blond, brown, red, whatever color it may be) mane and climb down the tower ourselves.